Opinion: Becareful with Nanny

It is very hard to balance working and family weight particularly women in the context of modern society.

It is very fortunate that many Cambodian families live in extended family, and not many have both husbands and wives working. Or if they both are working, they have at least grandmother or other close relative living with. 

However, there are also some families faced similar sad story as shown in the video (http://helpwatch.multiply.com/video/item/2/nanny_hurting_an_innocent_child ) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGvzpUpB6WA) .  This video reminded me a few years ago that my niece live with housemaid/nanny and suffered very much the same situation as shown in the video. Both of my brother and sister in law are working. They leave their 2-year-old daughter with housemaid whose age was 18 years old (but she actually looks like 15 years old). my niece lives with the housemaid every day; they do not have any relative living with. After coming back from work, my sister recognized her daughter had scars, bruises (on chest or legs)  or sometimes her eyes swollen. She asked the maid about those scars, but she was told that my niece accidentally fell down herself or run against table. My niece did not tell my sister even though she tried to ask her many times. My brother did not care. he admired the maid for having done good job because if my sister feed my niece, she would not eat much, but if the maid feed her she ate a lot (because when both of them went away, the maid slapped on her face for not eating). Both of my brother and sister did not suspect anything. It had been two years that my niece suffered from this minor violence. I remembered that time, my niece was skinny and had slow development. We did not have spied camera, i wish i should have one that time. My brother and sister realized that their daughter had gone through the violent situation after the maid stopped living with them and went back to her home. After the maid leaving for one week, my niece dared to tell my sister about what happened. But, we do not have any evidence. I felt so pity on my niece.

I cannot trust anyone to look after my son, but at the same time I also do not want to loose my job. What should I do? should woman stop working and taking care of her child or should man stop working and take care of his child? How can working wife and husband (living in nuclear family) could share equal status in this huge responsibility? I observed that most of the time, women are the only person who sacrifice first.